Well, you can bet her books are going to show up on this blog after this.
Or Give Me Death is a novelizational look at several very hard years in Patrick Henry's family life, seen through the eyes of two of his daughters.
Did you know Patrick Henry's first wife battled mental illness? Did you know the family had to eventually lock her up in a suite of rooms they set up in the basement so she couldn't harm the children or herself?
I mean, this sounds like something out of a Charlotte Brontë novel. Except it's totally true. While reading Or Give Me Death, I kept looking things up and discovering that, yup, that new-to-me sad or strange fact was true. Over and over.
The first section of the book is told from the perspective of Patrick Henry's eldest daughter, Patsy. It begins in 1771, with Patsy gradually realizing her mother is mentally unstable and becoming dangerous. It shows how much weight descends on Patsy's shoulders as she has to take over mothering her younger siblings and running the household. She grows up very quickly once they have to confine her mother Sarah, and marries young. She and her new husband take over running the family estate because Patrick Henry is often away either practicing law or debating revolutionary things with other important leaders.
The second half begins in 1773 and is from the perspective of a younger daughter, Anne. Anne resents how bossy Patsy has become, resents being told she must grow up and stop living as a carefree child, and resents how many secrets she must keep for the various members of her family. She has to grow up too quickly and suddenly, but unlike her sister, she has a harder time resigning herself to this.
I felt a lot of sympathy for both sisters, and wished often in the second half of the book that Rinaldi had not made Anne quite so stridently antagonistic toward Patsy. They are both enduring a really hard reality, as are the rest of the members of the family. I'm not sure how much of the sibling discord is factual, though I do know that there's a note at the end from Rinaldi saying that Patrick Henry and his family left very little by way of a paper trail, so she had to work mostly from things written about them by their relatives and friends and contemporaries, and extrapolate a lot from what would be common parts of life in Colonial and Revolutionary Virginia.
While I found the sibling antagonism less than pleasant at times, I still very much enjoyed this book. And I didn't find that antagonism unrealistic, I just... would have preferred less of it, because then the characters would have been happier, and I generally just want characters to find ways to be happy! But that's not always realistic or feasible.
Particularly Good Bits:
Dark, unexplainable things happened all the time in the outlands of Virginia (p. 7).
"Ah, we all could do with a little divine vengeance at breakfast," Pa said. "What better way to start the day?" (p. 51)
When do you keep a secret, and when do you tell? Do you tell the truth, knowing it will hurt someone? Or tell a lie to keep from hurting them? How much does keeping it inside cost? Eventually it will come out, won't it? And hurt the person you are trying to protect, anyway (p. 117).
"Our family is broken, Anne. It happens betimes with families. So what we must do is know that while other families get to enjoy the whole, we can only enjoy the pieces. But don't hold them too close. broken pieces have edges and can hurt. Look outside the family for your happiness" (p. 164).
If This was a Movie, I Would Rate It: PG-13 for some non-gory violence, scary scenes involving children in peril, descriptions of madness and mad behavior, talk of ghosts and 'second sight,' and a horribly cruel death inflicted on a slave girl (off-page and lightly described, but thoroughly awful). Definitely a teen read, not for kids.
This has been my first book read from my #RevolutionaryWarReads list!
