Wow. This book is intense. It deals with the struggles faced by a married couple who are separated when the husband is deployed to the Middle East. I love how it gives a clear picture of two Christians with mature faith who still struggle to live out their faith in their daily life.
There are no easy answers provided here -- simply reading the Bible and praying and going to church don't fix every problem, though turning your back on Word and Sacrament certainly exacerbate troubles at times. Depression and doubt are depicted realistically, but shown to be survivable, not the end of life or faith.
I've reviewed this book fully here on Sister, Daughter, Mother, Wife, if you want to know more. You'll also have a chance to enter a giveaway there!
Particularly Good Bits:
Church wasn't a place to go only when life was going well.
They might not be like other couples, attached at the hip and sickeningly cute, but this was them, with their own brand of marriage and love, however odd it might seem to the outside world.
She looked down into her mug, wishing she could disappear into the abyss, drown herself in coffee. That would be a weird way to go. Very Lutheran of you.
If This was a Movie, I Would Rate It: PG-13 for scenes of war violence and danger, soldiers using occasional crass language and making jokes about people's mothers, a realistic depiction of more than one kind of depression, and discussions of child neglect and a suspected suicide attempt. Gritty, but not gruesome or gross.
I received a complimentary advance copy from the author, and in no way did I agree to provide a positive review in exchange. These are my honest opinions.
(UPDATED 1-2-25 to include my full review below.)
This book is intense.
Neither I nor my husband have ever been in the military, but I have several friends and relatives in various branches. Because we live not that far from Washington, DC, and there are Marine, Air Force, and Army bases close by, a sizable percentage of the people who attend our church are either current or former military personnel. So I can identify really well with this book in a second-hand way.
Meg Winters thinks she'll survive her husband Charlie's deployment to the Middle East just fine. She's been through deployments before. She's got good friends nearby, a warm and loving church family to help her, and besides, this is the modern day. She can chat with her husband online, face to face, quite regularly. It'll be a milk run.
Charlie Winters is a little disappointed that his main mission overseas is to drive convoy trucks back and forth. He's been deployed before, and he has a lot of combat training and some combat experience. He feels like he's being wasted on these boring truck routes.
That could all be a recipe for a cozy, sweet, cheerful look at how living through a deployment isn't so bad. Or it could be the perfect ingredients for a story about the dangers of leaning on your own strength instead of God's and being careful what you wish for. Rasanen chooses the later path, and Soldier On dives deep and dark fairly quickly.
As Meg slides into depression over past sins and present heartaches, Charlie feels haunted by his own past struggles and present boredom. Throughout the story, both seek comfort and guidance from the Bible and their pastor, but both struggle mightily nonetheless. Rasanen avoids trite, easy answers like, "Pray more and you'll feel better" and acknowledges that sometimes God's "peace that passes all understanding" is not something we'll physically feel or mentally understand in this life, but something we know waits for us in heaven. She delves into serious problems like depression, guilt, and lying.
This story is haunting in its bare-knuckled honesty. I had to set it aside while my husband was away on a business trip because, even though he was just attending a conference a few states away, the book was impacting me so much, it felt like I was trying to survive a deployment myself. That is powerful, stirring writing.
Throughout the book, the issue of vocation surfaces again and again. Being a husband, wife, friend, soldier, mother, and neighbor are all touched out, and the characters work to fulfill their God-given roles in realistic ways. And all of them are approached from a solidly Lutheran standpoint, which I greatly appreciated.
Don't let all my talk about realism and serious problems dissuade you from reading this book! It ends happily, I promise. It's the first book in a planned series, and I look forward to seeing what Rasanen writes next.